Coach Juveriya

I Found the Spark Back in my Marriage ❤️

Being a Muslim woman born and raised in India, I believed I understood what respect meant!

It was instilled in me from childhood and exemplified by many strong role models.

By God’s grace, my husband and I celebrated 25 years of marriage built on mutual respect, despite the typical issues and struggles.

But in our 26th year, cracks began to show.

The destructive seeds of resentment I had sown over time began to sprout, and I found myself losing respect for him in my heart. My behaviors reflected that loss of respect. We started losing the spark I cherished!

I slipped into a martyr mentality, sacrificing my desires, carrying every responsibility, and convincing myself I was the better parent and spouse.

Exhaustion and resentment consumed me, while he felt disrespected.

Communication broke down; I was too emotional, and he was too logical, leaving us both feeling invalidated. On the outside, our marriage looked strong, but inside, our foundation was hollow.

My self-esteem suffered.

In desperation, I dragged my husband to couples therapy, hoping he would change. Instead, that only made our emotional connection worse. I felt heard, but he felt attacked. I surrendered myself to the idea that perhaps this was simply the normal course of marriage (although I never truly believed it)!

Then, a dear friend introduced me to Laura Doyle.

At first, I resisted… my marriage wasn’t in crisis, so why read her book? But my unhappiness kept surfacing, and eventually I listened to it on Audible.

I was stunned to recognize the subtle ways I had been disrespectful.

I felt ashamed, yet hopeful.

The Six Intimacy Skills™ resonated deeply with my Islamic values.

I began practicing small shifts: taking accountability, apologizing, actually noticing the little and big things he did, expressing gratitude, and listening to his heart messages.

Finally, I saw change.

But the true breakthrough came when I joined Laura Doyle’s Relationship Coach Certification.

Immersing myself in the Skills, I stopped defending and started focusing on my own actions, thoughts, and energy.

I discovered that the power was within me all along. Within months, I felt transformed.

I found the balance between communal values (respecting others, even at my own expense) and individualistic values (honoring myself at all costs).

As I rediscovered myself, the spark in my marriage returned.

My husband and I laugh together again, cherish each other, and feel deeply connected. Peace and contentment radiate from me to those around me.

This journey is ongoing. I now know that my healing, my happiness, and my peace are MY responsibility.

I am grateful to God for guiding me back to myself, and to my husband for standing by me. It truly takes a village of like-minded women to support one another in becoming happy wives and building strong families.

Self-care, respect, and vulnerability have lost their meaning in today’s world.

Laura restored them, showing that true feminism is about honoring ourselves while respecting our loved ones.

These Skills not only revived my marriage but also deepened my faith, helping me truly live the beauty of Islam at its core. ❤️